Leaning Into the Suck

Alt title: Impatience is NOT a virtue

Last summer, I sent a letter to paid subscribers about an incredibly handy equation my therapist once shared with me

Pain x resistance = suffering

In other words, when something sucks and you resist the suck, you end up suffering way more than if you were to just accept the suck for what it is — suck.

So here’s my confession: I’ve been trying to resist the suck of the newborn months for weeks now, and it finally caught up to me. Instead of leaning in and accepting life as it is right now, I’ve been trying to fight back. To find loopholes. To hurry the process. But I’ve realized there is no shortcut, so I’m leaning into the suck.